Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous ( Questions )

40 Questions for Self Diagnosis

The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex

and love addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative

answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. Many sex and

love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering

these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided

as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. We

appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious

and very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful.

Yes [ ] No [ ] 1.) Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see


Yes [ ] No [ ] 2.) Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know

that seeing this person is destructive to you?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 3.) Do you feel that you don’t want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic

activities? Do you feel you need to hide these activities from others – friends,

family, co-workers, counselors, etc.?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 4.) Do you get “high” from sex and/or romance? Do you crash?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 5.) Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with

inappropriate people?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 6.) Do you make promises to yourself or rules for yourself concerning your sexual or

romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 7.) Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don’t (didn’t) want to have sex


Yes [ ] No [ ] 8.) Do you believe that sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 9.) Have you ever felt that you had to have sex?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 10.) Do you believe that someone can “fix” you?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 11.) Do you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you’ve had?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 12.) Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or

sexual partner?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 13.) Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you’ve had?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 14.) Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 15.) Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of

being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 16.) Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 17.) Do you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform

sexually, or provide an emotional fix?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 18.) Do you feel like a lifeless puppet unless there is someone around with whom you

can flirt? Do you feel that you’re not “really alive” unless you are with your sexual /

romantic partner?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 19.) Do you feel entitled to sex?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 20.) Do you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 21.) Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by

pursuing a sexual partner?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 22.) Do you believe that the problems in your “love life” result from not

having enough of, or the right kind of sex? Or from continuing to

remain with the “wrong” person?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 23.) Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of

outside sexual activity?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 24.) Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without

sex? Do you feel that you would have no identity if you were not someone’s lover?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 25.) Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean


Yes [ ] No [ ] 26.) Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 27.) Do you have sex and/or “relationships” to try to deal with, or escape from life’s


Yes [ ] No [ ] 28.) Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with

which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the

places in which you do it?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 29.) Do you engage in the practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc., in ways that bring

discomfort and pain?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 30.) Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual

or romantic activities just to achieve an “acceptable” level of physical and

emotional relief?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 31.) Do you need to have sex, or “fall in love” in order to feel like a “real man” or a “real


Yes [ ] No [ ] 32.) Do you feel that your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as

hijacking a revolving door? Are you jaded?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 33.) Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or

feelings you are having about another person or about sex?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 34.) Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though

these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 35.) Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities

for a given period of time? Have you ever wished you could be less emotionally


Yes [ ] No [ ] 36.) Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do? Are you afraid

that deep down you are unacceptable?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 37.) Do you feel that you lack dignity and wholeness?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 38.) Do you feel that your sexual and/or romantic life affects your spiritual life in a

negative way?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 39.) Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your sexual and/or romantic

behavior or your excessive dependency needs?

Yes [ ] No [ ] 40.) Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you

were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits


Sharapova takes on her hurricane donating $$$$ to Puerto Rico


Super Sharapova donates Sugarpova monies to Puerto Rico

Posted on October 24, 2017
Dear all,
I wanted to give you all another update. Yesterday, I made the trip and visited Puerto Rico, in order to help and support the victims of hurricane Maria. Supported by the donations received from all of you via this page, I was able to deliver goods purchased and that were shipped to the island from the US mainland.     

With the help of my colleague tennis player Maria Sharapova, I was able to hand out supplies, including 1250 gas stoves, 1000 solar powered light/radio units, 3000 propane cylinders, and medicine for San Jorge’s Children’s Hospital, all which was purchased directly with your donations.  

Following a meeting with Puerto Rico’s Governor Ricardo Rossello upon arrival at the airport, we visited patients at San Jorge’s Children’s Hospital and donated the purchased medical supplies. Following the hospital visit, I went to the town of Loiza in one of the hardest hit areas of Puerto Rico and distributed the stoves, lamp/radio units and propane cylinders to the thousands of waiting residents there. 

While as much as 90% of Puerto Rico is still without power, my fundraising efforts won’t stop and I will continue via Thank you all once again for all your generous donations. With your help, we were able to put actual, much needed supplies, in the hands of the people directly. I am forever grateful.


Monica Puig, acclaimed American tennis champion, considers herself Puerto Rican first, American second. Puig, who in Rio last year became the first Puerto Rican ever to win a gold medal at the Olympic games, has been at the forefront of relief efforts since Hurricane Maria devastated the island more than a month ago. Though the 24-year-old grew up in Miami, she has returned to her hometown of San Juan every summer—and that’s not about to change. Only now she goes back laden with donations and supplies to help the thousands of Puerto Ricans still left without electricity, running water, and other necessities, for whom she’s already raised more than $150,000.

And sometimes she brings some famous friends along too: five-time Grand Slam winner Maria Sharapova and Puig first got to know each other for an exhibition game in Puerto Rico last December. Sharapova was one of the first tennis players to reach out to Puig after Hurricane Maria hit the island in September, and Puig took her up on her offer to accompany her on a relief trip there. Just two weeks ago, the two women delivered supplies bought with donations to Puig’s massive YouCaring campaign, which she launched with an emotional essay in Sports Illustrated almost immediately after the hurricane hit. Now Puig is back again in San Juan, where she spoke with Vogue by phone about her immense Puerto Rican pride, the “real” Maria Sharapova, her plans to keep the world’s attention on the thousands of people who still need help—and yes, how she still manages to fit in some tennis.

You were last there with Maria Sharapova.

Yes, we were here—it was my first visit after the hurricane, to donate a bunch of goods that we were able to purchase wholesale from a couple of big companies, with the funds that I collected on the YouCaring account I set up. We were able to help out thousands of people—and to really see just how badly Hurricane Maria affected Puerto Rico.

Was joining you on a trip to Puerto Rico something Maria expressed interest in right away, or did you ask her to come along?

She was one of the first people who contacted me after Hurricane Maria hit. She told me, “If you have any plans to go to Puerto Rico after you finish your season, I would really like to tag along,” and I did have plans to come the first day of my off-season. So she came with me, and the trip was an overwhelming success. And obviously her help doesn’t stop there. She’s donating the revenues from her online Sugarpova sales for the rest of the year to the fundraising efforts.

This trip bought us a lot closer. When we’re in competition it’s always a lot more stressful. It was nice to step away from our normal environment, and just be who we are. She’s such a nice person, very down to earth, very helpful and caring. It’s nice to see a different side of Maria Sharapova that a lot of people probably never get to see.

A Russian native, Sharapova first picked up a racket at the age of 4 in her hometown of Sochi. By the time she was 6, she was spotted by Martina Navratilova, who told Sharapova’s father Yuri that she was gifted. Shortly thereafter Sharapova and her dad moved to Florida so she could train at Nick Bollettieri’s elite Tennis Academy—her mother would join them two years later—with only $700, borrowed from her grandparents, and without speaking a word of English.

In Miami, they talked their way into Nick Bollettieri’s renowned academy, but she soon made the mistake of beating the daughters of rich parents. That saw her booted out and she and her father were homeless again. But always someone came to their aid and there were always rough public courts to practise on.

Every day she overcame stress by hitting tennis balls and she still does.

She signed her first deal with Nike at 11.

Tennis is a lonely game. In its purest form, it’s a single person pitted against another. There are no teammates and few breaks. It’s a mental and physical grind. For Sharapova, whose father worked odd jobs those first few years while she trained as a child, the solitude was compounded by having few peers around.

Her on-court grunting annoys opponents. She’s not what you would call warm and cuddly. She is resented for her off-court side hustles. Then there was the doping ban. Upon Sharapova’s return, fellow player Bouchard called her “a cheater.”

Ever since she was tiny she only wanted to smash the other girls with her hard, flat hitting. Friendships were out.

As a 17-year-old when she beat Serena Williams in the Wimbledon final, she heard Serena crying in the adjacent locker and Serena never forgave her for it.



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Siberian Siren is Unstoppable


From Maria Sharapova, one of our fiercest female athletes, the captivating— and candid—story of her rise from nowhere to tennis stardom, and the unending fight to stay on top.

In 2004, in a stunning upset against the two-time defending champion Serena Williams, seventeen-year-old Maria Sharapova won Wimbledon, becoming an overnight sensation. Out of virtual anonymity, she launched herself onto the international stage. “Maria Mania” was born. Sharapova became a name and face recognizable worldwide. Her success would last: she went on to hold the number-one WTA ranking multiple times, to win four more Grand Slam tournaments, and to become one of the highest-grossing female athletes in the world.

And then—at perhaps the peak of her career—Sharapova came up against the toughest challenge yet: during the 2016 Australian Open, she was charged by the ITF with taking the banned substance meldonium, only recently added to the ITF’s list. The resulting suspension would keep her off the professional courts for fifteen months—a frighteningly long time for any athlete. The media suggested it might be fateful.

But Sharapova’s career has always been driven by her determination and by her dedication to hard work. Her story doesn’t begin with the 2004 Wimbledon championship, but years before, in a small Russian town, where as a five-year-old she played on drab neighborhood courts with precocious concentration. It begins when her father, convinced his daughter could be a star, risked everything to get them to Florida, that sacred land of tennis academies. It begins when the two arrived with only seven hundred dollars and knowing only a few words of English. From that, Sharapova scraped together one of the most influential sports careers in history.

Here, for the first time, is the whole story, and in her own words. Sharapova’s is an unforgettable saga of dedication and fortune. She brings us inside her pivotal matches and illuminates the relationships that have shaped her—with coaches, best friends, boyfriends, and Yuri, her coach, manager, father, and most dedicated fan, describing with honesty and affection their oft-scrutinized relationship. She writes frankly about the suspension. As Sharapova returns to the professional circuit, one thing is clear: the ambition to win that drove her from the public courts of Russia to the manicured lawns of Wimbledon has not diminished.

Sharapova’s Unstoppable is a powerful memoir, resonant in its depiction of the will to win—whatever the odds.

July 18th, 47 years unsolved !!!!

God Bless Mary Jo !!!!                                                !!!!!!!! Justice unserved !!!!!! over 40 years !!!!

Source: July 18th, 47 years unsolved !!!!

Monday, July 18th, 2016 ~ INRI (47 years and bullshit!!) Mary Jo Kopechne, the 28-year-old, smart, vivacious teacher and campaign aide to Robert Kennedy who was the passenger in the car of Sen. Ted Kennedy (Clarke) when the car he was driving plunged into the water off a one-lane bridge. Kopechne became trapped in the overturned, submerged car while Kennedy escaped. He then failed to report the accident to police and instead that night reached out to two others — a cousin and friend — to help him.